Category: Emotional Mastery

  • Week #46 and 47 – Assurance and Surrender

    Week #46 – Assurance

    I paid attention to how my internal and external reality changed when I focused on feeling assured. First of all, I felt pulled to pay attention … Read more


  • Week #45 – Intention

    I really enjoyed the experiment of setting 100+ intentions per day. I experimented with different ways of saying the intention, just to see if some ways landed better than others. … Read more


  • Week #40 – Integrity

    Keeping this value at the back of my mind simplifies things, for the most part, I found. How I should act in a particular scenario becomes clear because I don’t … Read more


  • Week 35 through 38 – Pronoia, Discipline, Understanding, and Alignment

    I’m writing this in the first week of November but am going to backdate it to sometime in September so that it appears in the right order on the blog. … Read more


  • Week #34 – Closure

    What a week. It was successful beyond my imagination or definition. I got closure on the subject that’d been bothering me for weeks as well as closure on a couple … Read more


  • Week #33 – Resolve

    It’s interesting how these weeks sometimes pan out. I’ve done this weekly value exploration long enough now to really allow myself to sink into a value from day #1. Of … Read more


  • Week #31 and 32 – Wellness and Trust

    Wellness

    I was unwell during the week of wellness which was ironic. I had a particularly rough PMS followed by a particularly painful period which made a lot of my … Read more


  • Week #27 – Focus

    This was the right value to start Q3 with. Reminding myself of my quarterly goals every day helped me take action to create momentum in each of them. I set … Read more


  • Week #19: Harmony

    I’m feeling happy about the way this week panned out. I’d ask myself how I could feel harmony that day and follow through on whatever came up. I ended up … Read more


  • Week #18: Connection

    It was a beautiful week, filled with deep and often touching conversations. It’s funny how choosing a value for the week becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. From Apr 29th to May … Read more


  • Week #17: Compersion

    It was an amazing week. I was surprised by how easy it was to feel compersion even if, at times, that wasn’t my initial reaction. It was fairly easy to … Read more


  • Week #15 and #16 – Openheartedness and Ease

    I’m combining the updates for weeks #15 and #16.

    Week #15 was about openheartedness. It was a really heart-centered week given the value in focus. What I particularly liked about … Read more


  • Week #14: Flow

    I practiced the following steps every day to get into a state of flow.

    1. Form a specific intention for the type of idea, experience, or result you’d like to request.
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  • Week #12: Intensity

    Yup, I got what I asked for. That was one intense week. I guess I should be happy that I survived.

    In all honesty, I didn’t get many work-related projects … Read more


  • Week #11: Fun

    My birthday week was nothing less than a massive roller coaster. And roller coasters are fun, aren’t they? Well, however I interpret it, it’s undeniable that the week was memorable.… Read more


  • Week #8: Compassion

    This particular value truly changed the way I related to myself and others. Every morning, I would journal for a bit and clarify how I could show compassion to myself … Read more


  • Week #7: Engagement

    The power of engagement is that it gives us a deeper, richer experience of life. With recent events highlighting the importance of this value in my life, I’m glad that … Read more


  • Week #6: Equanimity

    It was a beautiful week. There are no words to describe how beautiful. What’s more, I felt like I truly understood what it feels like to be equanimous. To be … Read more


  • Week #5: Authenticity

    Week 5 went better than expected. I’ve been feeling calmer and more optimistic, especially since Monday. That’s not to say that I didn’t have any emotional roller coasters; in fact, … Read more


  • Update: How The Year of Values exploration is going so far

    The exploration has been all that I thought it would be and more. I especially like how the value for each week chooses itself. By Thursday evening latest, the value … Read more


  • Love for love’s own sake

    I’ve been thinking about love a lot lately. I recently finished listening to Susan Piver’s The Wisdom of the Broken Heart and am currently listening to Sharon Salzberg’s Real LoveRead more


  • Week #4: Grace

    It’s been a week of highs and lows. Periods of calm interspersed between periods of emotional chaos. I felt the calmest when I was out on long walks. The weather … Read more


  • Week #3: Vulnerability

    It was a rough week and a lot happened. One thing I can say with certainty is that I practiced vulnerability like I never have before. I have a lot … Read more


  • Week #2: Order

    I loved this past week. I decluttered my room for at least 15 minutes every day; usually, as I chatted with friends or listened to audiobooks. I finished listening to … Read more


  • 2021 – The Goal Setting Process, Theme, and The Year of Values

    Happy new year! How’s this year been for you so far? (Seriously, I’m interested to know. I’m curious how different or similar the start of a new year is for … Read more


  • Start your day on the right foot and end it on the right note

    I’ve learnt that to have an amazing life, I need to focus on having amazing days. After all, life is but a string of days, isn’t it? Through trial and … Read more


  • Amp up your JOMO!

    I came across this term today and found it both amusing and apt. Dictionary.com defines JOMO [ joh-moh ] as, “a feeling of contentment with one’s own pursuits and activities, … Read more


  • Staying away from other people’s roller coasters

    My friend Dimi is a wise, wise person. I was telling him about how I was fretting about someone else’s anxieties and he asked me why I was getting anxious … Read more


  • Conflict Resolution

    I was speaking to my therapist about conflict resolution today. I have a hard time expressing myself when I have a contrarian opinion with people who are close to me. … Read more


  • Just f*cking let go

    Sometimes the solution is to just f*cking let go. Don’t analyze. Don’t reminisce. Don’t chew and chew until there’s nothing left to chew but you’re still chewing. Because you’ve gotten … Read more


  • Self-acceptance when you have a ‘special brain’

    Have patience with all things but first with yourself. Never confuse your mistakes with your value as a human being. You’re a perfectly valuable, creative, worthwhile person simply because you

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  • Please don’t help me

    There is a time to provide advice and offer an opinion, and there is a time not to. Don’t be too quick to offer unsolicited advice. It certainly will not

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  • Building self-love by helping others

    One of the best ways to get into a good-feeling place is to help others. This really is the magic bullet and I’ve seen it work time and again both … Read more


  • Lessons from Beth March

    I just had a good cry this afternoon. I am reading Little Women for the second time (the first time was more than a decade ago) and today I read … Read more


  • Self-forgiveness

    “If all the world hated you and believed you wicked, while your own conscience approved you, and absolved you from guilt, you would not be without friends.” 

    – Charlotte Brontë
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  • Becoming a woman of duality

    “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”

    – Nora Ephron

    Recommended by a dear friend, I started watching Anne with an E on Netflix yesterday. It’s … Read more


  • Staying in a good place

    How often do you feel that you’re in a good place? Do you think that you naturally have a sunny disposition or do you find yourself mostly having a bleak … Read more


  • Inspire yourself every day

    I think it’s important to inspire yourself every day. You need to find a way to access that inner, higher, more expansive self. When you’re inspired, you’ll be the best … Read more


  • Why I meditate and you should too

    “Removing old conditionings from the mind and training the mind to be more equanimous with every experience is the first step toward enabling one to experience true happiness.” – S.N. … Read more


  • Do you uplift others or bring them down?

    “Everything you do right now ripples outward and affects everyone. Your posture can shine your heart or transmit anxiety. Your breath can radiate love or muddy the room in depression. Read more


  • 5 ways to energize yourself

    I have days when I feel meh or low-energy for no good reason. I find it super hard to be productive in that state. I bet you’ve had such days … Read more


  • Let your sorrow be your guide

    I was doing some journaling this afternoon. Writing helps me think more clearly so I like giving voice to the thoughts in my head on paper. It was an interesting … Read more


  • Intentions

    It was new moon on the 24th. Someone I know said that the new moon is a time to set intentions. A time to contemplate what you want to bring … Read more


  • The silver lining to the Coronavirus cloud

    Like nearly everyone else on the planet, I am staying at home with my family as the entire country is under lockdown for the next 21 days. To say it … Read more


  • Do you make other people’s problems your own?

    I had an interesting experience this morning which got me thinking quite deeply about how I end up making other people’s problems my own. A friend told me how an … Read more