Category: #theyearofme project

  • #theyearofme project – the starting point

    I was on a vacation in Thailand in December. Sitting under the shade of a palm tree and taking in the picturesque blue-green ocean, my heart felt at peace. I … Read more


  • Week #45 – Intention

    I really enjoyed the experiment of setting 100+ intentions per day. I experimented with different ways of saying the intention, just to see if some ways landed better than others. … Read more


  • Week #31 and 32 – Wellness and Trust

    Wellness

    I was unwell during the week of wellness which was ironic. I had a particularly rough PMS followed by a particularly painful period which made a lot of my … Read more


  • All feelings are valid and you’re inherently worthy

    My friend Febin said something yesterday regarding parenting which really hit home. She said that when we raise kids, we think they are deserving of love but we don’t think … Read more


  • Week #6: Equanimity

    It was a beautiful week. There are no words to describe how beautiful. What’s more, I felt like I truly understood what it feels like to be equanimous. To be … Read more


  • Week #5: Authenticity

    Week 5 went better than expected. I’ve been feeling calmer and more optimistic, especially since Monday. That’s not to say that I didn’t have any emotional roller coasters; in fact, … Read more


  • Drink some hot cocoa

    Do you have days when you are irritable and every thought you think has a swear word in it?

    I sure do.

    What do you do then? Stomp around like … Read more


  • September review and October plans

    September was the most relaxing month of the year. It’s interesting that came at the heels of the most stressful month of the year. Or probably not. Because I recognised … Read more


  • August review and September plans

    August

    August was perhaps the hardest month of the year for me. There was a lot of turbulence in my personal life and it took a toll on me. I … Read more


  • Adrift

    Lately, I’ve been feeling like I want to be adrift for a while. I get the image of floating in the middle of a vast ocean, arms outstretched, the sun … Read more


  • Recognizing and owning your views

    Someone I was developing a deep bond with recently shared some extremely controversial views on the subjects of rape, incest, children engaging in sexual activities with adults, etc. I found … Read more


  • June and July review + August exploration

    I didn’t post a June review. Which is weird because I thought that I got quite a bit done in June. And now it’s already August! I thought it makes … Read more


  • Review: The 7-day ‘Follow the joy’ exploration

    It was…an interesting week. 7 days of going with the flow. It was…fun? Yes and no. It was a difficult exploration for me to do. I genuinely thought that the … Read more


  • Just f*cking let go

    Sometimes the solution is to just f*cking let go. Don’t analyze. Don’t reminisce. Don’t chew and chew until there’s nothing left to chew but you’re still chewing. Because you’ve gotten … Read more


  • Day 3 update: The 7 days ‘Follow the joy’ exploration

    I’m three days into this exploration and I had a meltdown this afternoon. I woke up this morning feeling super negative. Strangely enough, this whole ‘going with joy’ was turning … Read more


  • The one week ‘Follow the joy’ exploration

    There has been an interesting turn of events. It led me to start a 7-day exploration that I want to share with you. But first, let me give you some … Read more


  • May review + June focus

    May was an interesting month and I came away from it with a deeper understanding of myself. I was quite amazed to see how one could take a conscious approach … Read more


  • Self-acceptance when you have a ‘special brain’

    Have patience with all things but first with yourself. Never confuse your mistakes with your value as a human being. You’re a perfectly valuable, creative, worthwhile person simply because you

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  • Being more ‘you’

    It’s my quest this year and decade to start being more ‘me’. To understand what it means to be me, I’ve been taking a raw look at my thoughts, beliefs, … Read more


  • Psychometric tests I’ve used to know myself better (plus some vulnerability)

    I like taking psychometric tests. Though many regard them as pseudoscience, I’ve personally found them interesting. What I appreciate about these tests is that they get me thinking deeply about … Read more


  • April review and May challenge

    May is upon us! I’m excited. April was great despite the coronavirus lockdown. I thought I’d reflect on how April went and share what I have in mind for May.… Read more


  • Building self-love by helping others

    One of the best ways to get into a good-feeling place is to help others. This really is the magic bullet and I’ve seen it work time and again both … Read more


  • Self-forgiveness

    “If all the world hated you and believed you wicked, while your own conscience approved you, and absolved you from guilt, you would not be without friends.” 

    – Charlotte Brontë
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  • Becoming a woman of duality

    “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”

    – Nora Ephron

    Recommended by a dear friend, I started watching Anne with an E on Netflix yesterday. It’s … Read more


  • Self-care and using devices consciously

    I believe that one of the most important aspects of self-care is the conscious use of devices. I hadn’t realised the impact of being constantly connected with seemingly everything via … Read more


  • The permission to prioritize yourself

    People say, “Oh you’re so selfish. You’re pleasing you.” And what they mean is “You should please me.” You’re selfish because you please you – and I’m not selfish because

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  • Exploring self-expression

    What is the meaning of self-expression? I looked up the definition online and there were a few different variations:

    Dictionary.com defines self-expression as: “the expression or assertion of one’s own Read more


  • What fills your cup?

    It was a particularly beautiful evening. The sky was grey and the trees were in hues of green. Spring is in full swing so in the backdrop of the grey … Read more


  • The song that is you

    I’m feeling strangely emotional as I write this. Maybe because it’s so close to my heart. Maybe because I’ve fallen prey to wanting to be anyone but me so many … Read more


  • The 365-day self-expression and self-love challenges

    What does this mean for my 2030 self?

    Since December, I’ve been obsessively thinking about how I want 2020 (and by extension, the next decade) to pan out. I turned … Read more


  • Intentions

    It was new moon on the 24th. Someone I know said that the new moon is a time to set intentions. A time to contemplate what you want to bring … Read more